Step 1: Know yourself...really well
You are uniquely good at something. But are you crystal clear on what exactly?
Here's a simple exercise that I did:
The Three Lists Method:
- List 1: Times someone said you did something great
- List 2: Moments you felt genuinely proud of your work
- List 3: Write "I'm uniquely good at..."
For me? "Fast learner who thrives in ambiguity."
Pro tip: Feed these three lists to your favorite AI. The results are surprisingly accurate.
Bonus: Knowing what you're NOT good at is equally valuable. It tells you exactly what kind of help you need (mentor, advisor, co-founder, etc.).
Step 2: Write a 5Y/10Y vision… on paper
Get specific. Not just "I want to be successful"—that's useless.
Try this template: "In 5 years, my life will be fulfilled if..."
Then cover every angle: Personal, business, financial, spiritual, family. Write it by hand (no screens). There's something about pen on paper that makes it stick.
I read mine every quarter. Netflix usage down 90%. Intentionality up 900%.
It also serves as a reminder of "when enough is enough."
Step 3: Optimize for long-term vision and/or short-term learnings
Now the filtering process:
Rule 1: If it doesn't align with your 5-year vision, kill it. No exceptions. Yes, even if it's shiny.
(I could become a professional speaker—fun, aligned with my skills—but not aligned with my vision. Gone.)
Rule 2: Make ONE exception for short-term learning opportunities. Pick projects that teach you critical skills, even if they're not perfectly aligned.
My current bets:
- International expansion project → Learning enterprise sales, partnerships
- Podcast launch → Learning video, storytelling, networking
For the faith-driven among us, there's of course a step 0 🙏🏽.
For the AI geeks, I've also created a founder profile with Claude that I feed into every AI I work with. The results are impressive.